Happy Valentine's Day!  


By Pastor Gary Cortese, Chaplain – Byron Fire District

Valentine’s Day is February 14th every year - a time when many celebrate love and for Cupid to randomly shoot his arrows at unsuspecting folks. The problem, however, with suddenly “falling” in love is that you may someday just fall out of it.

Let me set the record straight on a couple of things here: People don’t just fall into love as if they’re standing on a slippery riverbank. Real love is about commitment and choices, not just feelings alone. But if you do play around on the riverbank of flirting, intimate conversation and an unbridled imagination you may not be able to avoid falling into the river as a matter of natural consequence.

Let me explain. Humans are designed the same way in certain areas. Apart from some exceptions to the rule, we have similar needs and ambitions. For example, most young adult males yearn to satisfy their raging ambitions in the same manner: with the assistance of young adult females. And older adult males yearn to satisfy their raging ambitions with the assistance of older (or younger) adult females. It’s common therefore, to hear the words “I love you” from the male species on occasions when true love isn’t really present. This is a fact of life that must be clearly understood by females everywhere (I have 4 daughters that I wish were ugly as sin so that no boys would ever come around).

Another problem is that when a person is feeling unloved, ignored, or inferior, it’s very easy to misinterpret someone else’s intentions. Coworkers who spend a lot of time together at the office are vulnerable to “slipping into the river.” Lonely and unfulfilled spouses who spend time on Internet chat rooms with other lonely and unfulfilled people are also prone to this type of “falling in love.” What is thought to be Cupid’s arrow may really be a classic case of an unhappy spouse with an over-active imagination.

Ok, so what about those of us who have made commitments to love, honor and cherish, ‘till death do we part? For those of us who are not playing around on the slippery banks of the river I would like to offer these humorous, but profound statements that were shared with me by people whose marriages are strong and stable. I hope you’ll ponder these words of wisdom and apply the insights found in them.

First, your marriage may have been made in heaven, but there is continual maintenance that must be done here on the earth. Second, husbands, learn how to compromise and do it her way. Third, you can be right, or you can be happy (Amen!). Next, marriage is like a marathon race, be patient and keep going. And, finally, marriage is not for cowards or the immature. Don’t jump in before you’re ready. Happy Valentine’s Day!


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