May 1, 2012 through June 30, 2012 Just a thought ...

June 23rd - Many Firefighters and Police Officers face the challenge of transitioning from Warrior to Spouse at the end of each shift. Whether you fight fires or crime you need the Warrior Mentality to be effective. However, this mindset doesn't automatically guarantee you success and happiness at home. How do you "leave your work at the office"? Do you really ever leave your work at the office? How do you deal with your spouse's inability to really understand what you do and go through? What happens when your spouse doesn't even seem to really care? I'd love to hear some of your wisdom and insight on how to find a balance and make it all work. For those of you who are struggling remember, first of all, that there is a way to be happy and fulfilled at home and on the job. Remember also that your spouse might feel just like you do - that you don't really understand what they go through or seem to care how they feel. Don't ever give up on each other!



June 21st - An Italian proverb says "The will is everything." And I'd like to add that we WILL either find a way or we WILL find an excuse. What have you set your will on?emotional

June 8th - When we "rehab" firefighters on the fire pysicalground we monitor their vital signs and we give them an opportunity to rest. Research and experience indicate that we should rehab the mind and spirit as well. Not only will this help keep our departments healthiespiritualr longer but equips firefighters and police officers with the tools needed to maintain healthy homes as well. The Chaplain helps promote wholeness by integrating the spiritual and emotional with the physical.



June 2nd - For years I've watched many of you perform unFirefighterder pressure - responding to Fire, Rescue, and Medical calls. I'm proud of you and I thank God for you. What an incredible blessing to have expertly trained professioFirefighter wifenals just a phone call away! Not everyone is "cut-out" for the work you do. But what's even more difficult is trying to be the spouse of a Firefighter or Police Officer. The life of service includes sacrifice, uncertainty and a commitment uncommon to most. It truly is a calling. If a spouse, or potential spouse is going to enjoy a long and happy life with you then they must discover their own calling as well.



May 24th - If you purchased a brand new car, drove it off the lot and new carimmediately took it out into a field, parked it and simply walked away. What do you think would happen if it sat there for several years? You'd have to pay someone to haul it away! Everything in life has to be maintainedRusty Car. How foolish it would be to go back to that field, open the car door and think you could start it up and just drive it home. Yet that's the way some relationships are treated - with neglect and presumption. No wonder why so many people are abandoning their commitments to each was left rotting in a field.



May 15th - Learning from our mistakes is important because history will repeat itself. But learning from the mistakes of others is even better. During National Police Week and EMS Week I want to remind our Firefighters and Police Officers that if you love your family you stay "on top of your game;" wear your seatbelt; use your PPE; don't take shortcuts; don't be careless, complacent, or become distracted. Everyone who loves a Cop or a Firefighter knows that what really matters most is them coming home safe at the end of their shift



May 6th - No one just "falls out of love" one day and files for divorce the next. The love you have for each other will erode over time if you are not diligent to maintain it. All marriages, Christian and non-Christian, require constant maintenance. Sadly, half of all marriages still end in divorce. Cops and Firefighters have higher rates of marital problems than the average couple but there is hope! Everyone deserves to be happy but you must find that happiness together - not at the expense of the other. You can start repairing a troubled relationship by dating each other again and reconnect with the person you married. And remember, you might be a hero to the community you serve but you need to be a hero to those who matter most - your own family.



May 1st - Someone accurately described the role and function of a Chaplain as follows:

"The Chaplain reports to the scene with Fire and EMS but quickly transitions into an independent resource on behalf of the Incident Commander. The Chaplain will work with and through multiple agencies in order to care for the scene's holistic needs."

I'd like to add that the Chaplain is a faith-based resource available to everyone regardless of religious affiliation or beliefs. But what happens when a Chaplain is not available? I've often heard from a Firefighter or Police Officer who wished they had a Chaplain on "that particular call." Your patient or victim has emotional and spiritual needs just like you do.

What would you do if your dying patient grabbed your hand and pleaded with you to say a prayer for them? As one Firefighter told me, "we're not trained for that." It just might be time to learn how to pray.